Sunday, May 31, 2015
Tuesday, May 26, 2015
Never the Same Weather....
Really the weather when I step out on the balcony to "feel" what the day might be like is nothing what is like when actually walk out of our building 15 minutes later and certainly not the same as when I go out at noon and again in the late afternoon. It has changed from overcast to sunny to torrential downpour. I am never prepared so I am over prepared, with the exception of rain gear. I have surrendered that I will get wet. I will not melt. I can change my clothes when I get home.
My son learned a song he sings at morning circle at school in New York called "What's the weather?" It goes something like this and I will spare your the audio version sung by me:
What's the weather, what's the weather, what's the weather like today?
Is it sunny, is it cloudy, what's the weather like today?
You get it. We find ourselves discussing the weather a lot. It seems to be one of the safer zones of conversation to have with my 4 year old. I prefer it sometimes than the usual: where do babies come from? What happens when we die? are you old? what's an errand? When are we going home? What's a mummy? How can I transformer into rescue bot? What happened to those buildings that fell down (in reference to the 750 piece puzzle we are doing "together" of the skyline of Manhattan? What is jail? Why isn't it morning time yet?
If our son ends up being a meteorologist I'd be OK with that. Meteorologist also have one of the best job security I know. Get the weather wrong and still have a job AND people still tune in to watch your forecast.
If our son ends up being a meteorologist I'd be OK with that. Meteorologist also have one of the best job security I know. Get the weather wrong and still have a job AND people still tune in to watch your forecast.
So when you come and visit I recommend you bring a sweater, comfortable shoes and some tank tops. See you soon!
Monday, May 25, 2015
Over/Under 30?
With much thanks to my in-laws, they sent us a care package last week. Inside were some greats treats for all of us including some lite reading, People magazine and Us Weekly. It was very much appreciated to have some "current events" reading material over the long holiday weekends.
But man do I feel old! If anyone in the magazine was under the age of 30 I had KNOW idea who they were! I like to think I have my finger on the pulse of pop culture but apparently it's on the pulse of 1997 pop culture???
I am now in touch with events in celebrity lives I had no idea existed and am thankful I now know what millennialist might be interested in...for the moment.
But man do I feel old! If anyone in the magazine was under the age of 30 I had KNOW idea who they were! I like to think I have my finger on the pulse of pop culture but apparently it's on the pulse of 1997 pop culture???
I am now in touch with events in celebrity lives I had no idea existed and am thankful I now know what millennialist might be interested in...for the moment.
I Can Get it, I Can Get it
A good friend gave our son a great Eric Carle book "I Can Do It". Perhaps because I am now reading it again with our 2nd child the catch phrase "I can do it, can you?" has been stuck in my head.
Unrelated to the book but being stuck in my head people are always asking us what the food situation is like. Visitors from Los Angeles were at our synagogue a few weeks ago and a woman came up to me and asked me (as if she was asking me the biggest secret in the world) "what do you do for kosher food here? where do you get your chicken?" I replied, "Downstairs!" She looked at me quizzically. I told her behind the very nice white drapes are full size refrigerators that are open during the week (not on the sabbath) and inside the Chabad sells a wide variety of chicken and beef products." She was shocked. Her next question, "what do you do about other food?? spices, snacks, baking stuff?" I was afraid to burst her bubble even more but I did....I told her I go to the International supermarket....brace yourself....and buy it....just like in New York. Whispers ensued between her and her husband.
I was also concerned, having moved here sight unseen about the kasherous options. I mean it's China, not a huge destination for kosher Jews to relocate long term. I tried explaining to our Ayi (nanny/housekeeper) that we do not mix milk and meat, while she got the concept, never heard of it before. A lot of blank stares followed but she gets it now. On that topic the only dairy we can get is milk and Hagen Daz ice cream. Granted you can buy Ben and Jerry's or Breyers' here but it cost $20 (exaggeration but not far off). Most of you have read already, I've really taken to making my own yogurt and the crowd seems to enjoy it. As for cheese, not a big miss in our diet and apparently we are healthier for not eating it, who knew (not me until now!)?
The long and short of it, we've adapted because I can get it, I can get it! If you think of top 5 foods you must have, that you think you can't live without, what are they? We find ourselves asking upon our visit this summer what foods will we bring back to China knowing now what we know and the answer, "nothing". Of course it's not going be nothing because we will be in America, the Golden Land. But for us our must have list seems to be: Granola Bars, Chocolate Chips, Cliff Bars, spices, and Jelly Beans. All things we can buy here.
Pampers, Jif Peanut Butter, Jelly Belly's, Pepperidge Farm cookies, Nestle Hot Chocolate, Crest toothpaste, Johnson and Johnson Soup, Heinz Ketchup to name of few of the "comforts" from home that we have here.
Many are surprised that China is not a hunting and gathering type society maybe? I am happy to report, I hunt at the supermarket and shopping malls, just like in New York (insert emoticon here).
I can get it, I can get it!
Unrelated to the book but being stuck in my head people are always asking us what the food situation is like. Visitors from Los Angeles were at our synagogue a few weeks ago and a woman came up to me and asked me (as if she was asking me the biggest secret in the world) "what do you do for kosher food here? where do you get your chicken?" I replied, "Downstairs!" She looked at me quizzically. I told her behind the very nice white drapes are full size refrigerators that are open during the week (not on the sabbath) and inside the Chabad sells a wide variety of chicken and beef products." She was shocked. Her next question, "what do you do about other food?? spices, snacks, baking stuff?" I was afraid to burst her bubble even more but I did....I told her I go to the International supermarket....brace yourself....and buy it....just like in New York. Whispers ensued between her and her husband.
I was also concerned, having moved here sight unseen about the kasherous options. I mean it's China, not a huge destination for kosher Jews to relocate long term. I tried explaining to our Ayi (nanny/housekeeper) that we do not mix milk and meat, while she got the concept, never heard of it before. A lot of blank stares followed but she gets it now. On that topic the only dairy we can get is milk and Hagen Daz ice cream. Granted you can buy Ben and Jerry's or Breyers' here but it cost $20 (exaggeration but not far off). Most of you have read already, I've really taken to making my own yogurt and the crowd seems to enjoy it. As for cheese, not a big miss in our diet and apparently we are healthier for not eating it, who knew (not me until now!)?
The long and short of it, we've adapted because I can get it, I can get it! If you think of top 5 foods you must have, that you think you can't live without, what are they? We find ourselves asking upon our visit this summer what foods will we bring back to China knowing now what we know and the answer, "nothing". Of course it's not going be nothing because we will be in America, the Golden Land. But for us our must have list seems to be: Granola Bars, Chocolate Chips, Cliff Bars, spices, and Jelly Beans. All things we can buy here.
Pampers, Jif Peanut Butter, Jelly Belly's, Pepperidge Farm cookies, Nestle Hot Chocolate, Crest toothpaste, Johnson and Johnson Soup, Heinz Ketchup to name of few of the "comforts" from home that we have here.
Many are surprised that China is not a hunting and gathering type society maybe? I am happy to report, I hunt at the supermarket and shopping malls, just like in New York (insert emoticon here).
I can get it, I can get it!
Tuesday, May 19, 2015
How Does that Make You Feel?
Everyone here uses emoticons. I seem to be a late adapter to emoticons. I am still reluctant to embrace them. Not just smiley faces but birthday cakes, China flags, Kung Fu even has its own set of feelings. I still use the semicolon closed parentheses for my "wink". Whatsapp and WeChat have made readily available to emote. If only blogspot had emoticons I could give you an example but I have not figured that out yet...
On the topic of feelings, I was emailing with a friend from New York. She was writing how she has
been reading my blog to see how we are doing but she wanted to know if I am happy.
I am happy. Devoted. Lonely. Excited. Involved. Sad. Unsure. Joyful. Empowered. Supported. Supportive. Lucky.
This is just a short list of adjectives that I would use to describe how I am feeling. With life it is always changing. Depends on the day. Depends on the mood of the kids. Many variables to consider. Life here is comfortable and familiar yet very different from home. My Jewish community here is VERY different from home. And I am learning those differences. Post to come at a later date.
I think over the the last few years I have learned that my feelings are not forever. For the good and for the bad. So I am learning to enjoy the highs as highs and the lows will pass. And thank god for whoever developed the technology to FaceTime.
In short, I tell my friend, via this blog. I am happy. It is really like what I write here in my posts.
On the topic of feelings, I was emailing with a friend from New York. She was writing how she has
been reading my blog to see how we are doing but she wanted to know if I am happy.
"the funny thing is that I can't tell if you're happy or not!!
I hope you are! So what's it really like?"
I hope you are! So what's it really like?"
I am happy. Devoted. Lonely. Excited. Involved. Sad. Unsure. Joyful. Empowered. Supported. Supportive. Lucky.
This is just a short list of adjectives that I would use to describe how I am feeling. With life it is always changing. Depends on the day. Depends on the mood of the kids. Many variables to consider. Life here is comfortable and familiar yet very different from home. My Jewish community here is VERY different from home. And I am learning those differences. Post to come at a later date.
I think over the the last few years I have learned that my feelings are not forever. For the good and for the bad. So I am learning to enjoy the highs as highs and the lows will pass. And thank god for whoever developed the technology to FaceTime.
In short, I tell my friend, via this blog. I am happy. It is really like what I write here in my posts.
Tuesday, May 12, 2015
Facts and Figures...The Big and Small of it
Even before we arrived I really tried grasp the idea of living in a city, one city, that had a population of 24 million people.
Some facts to compare to cities important to my frame of reference:
*courtesy of google
NYC 8.4 million
Philadelphia, PA 1.5 million
Jerusalem, Israel 780,000
Stamford, CT 126,000
Boynton Beach, Fl 71,000
Shanghai, China 22 million
Beijing, China 18 million
Guangdong 12.3 million
Hong Kong 7.1 million
With the above information to actually live in a city with such a dense population can seem over whelming to some. I definitely think I am a city girl. I like the beat, the accessibility, the lifestyle, the subway systems, even with kids living in a city that is child/stroller friendly, playgrounds, to me, seem more enjoyable than living in the suburbs (I reserve the right to change my mind down the road but right now this is how I feel). Part of the reason making this move with my family seemed easier than some would thing is because Shanghai is very much an urban infrastructure I could adapt to.
I can't seem but to compare my experiences to past cities I've traveled to. Shanghai feels very much like Vancouver. It's a huge city but has a suburban feel to it (houses yet a downtown, subway, night life; different than New York City where all the houses are in the outer boroughs). Shanghai is expansive. It has tons, I mean tons, of high rises all over. The skyline is expansive with beautiful buildings in every neighborhood. The subway is relatively easy to figure out. It takes 20-35 minutes to get to other neighborhoods but it's clean and easier than taking taxis (most of the time). Everything takes time but it is accessible and urban.
An area of the city called Pudong, just east of the Huangpu River, is 45 minutes away! If I went 45 minutes away from Manhattan I'd be nearly in Stamford, CT! So to have this area within this city is sometimes hard for me to wrap my head around the geography.
Some facts to compare to cities important to my frame of reference:
*courtesy of google
NYC 8.4 million
Philadelphia, PA 1.5 million
Jerusalem, Israel 780,000
Stamford, CT 126,000
Boynton Beach, Fl 71,000
Shanghai, China 22 million
Beijing, China 18 million
Guangdong 12.3 million
Hong Kong 7.1 million
With the above information to actually live in a city with such a dense population can seem over whelming to some. I definitely think I am a city girl. I like the beat, the accessibility, the lifestyle, the subway systems, even with kids living in a city that is child/stroller friendly, playgrounds, to me, seem more enjoyable than living in the suburbs (I reserve the right to change my mind down the road but right now this is how I feel). Part of the reason making this move with my family seemed easier than some would thing is because Shanghai is very much an urban infrastructure I could adapt to.
I can't seem but to compare my experiences to past cities I've traveled to. Shanghai feels very much like Vancouver. It's a huge city but has a suburban feel to it (houses yet a downtown, subway, night life; different than New York City where all the houses are in the outer boroughs). Shanghai is expansive. It has tons, I mean tons, of high rises all over. The skyline is expansive with beautiful buildings in every neighborhood. The subway is relatively easy to figure out. It takes 20-35 minutes to get to other neighborhoods but it's clean and easier than taking taxis (most of the time). Everything takes time but it is accessible and urban.
An area of the city called Pudong, just east of the Huangpu River, is 45 minutes away! If I went 45 minutes away from Manhattan I'd be nearly in Stamford, CT! So to have this area within this city is sometimes hard for me to wrap my head around the geography.
Sunday, May 10, 2015
Let it Go....
Not sure if it's the stage of life I am in or the age of parenting but I am learning (and I'm sure my mom would say much younger than she did) to let it go.
As our daughter is learning to walk I keep thinking about when our son started to walk and what it felt like as new parents. How naive I was. To think I could get him on a schedule and that schedule would be consistant EVERY day and my questions could be answered by other parents or Google (gasp) and I'd feel good and non competitive with other NYC mamas because MY baby slept thru the night from birth! Hahahahaha, right.
In the last 4 years I have learned, with having another child, going from zone-defense as parents to man-on-man, to let it go. They are not robots, no two children are exactly alike in a family and outside a family. Letting this notion go has helped me be a more relaxed wife, parent, daughter, sister and friend (though for verification please ask my husband, mother and brother).
Of course it's not so easy to let it go. I really think the combination of life experiences and maturation and the power of positive thinking that the idea is turning into practice and I am loving the results, at least at this moment.
Someone told me that when you go from 1 to 2+ children the child who has the more critical sense of urgency gets the attention. That advice helped me survive the first four months of our daughters life. Colic crying is not necessarily as urgent as the 3 year old having a tantrum.
Really practicing this mantra of letting it go in ernest this past year it has really helped me manage this big move. Even now, nearly 3 months in, we are leveling out. So the kids made a mess in the apartment (as a professional organizer this did once drive me bananas) but did they have fun? Yes. Did we laugh? Yes. That is the most important part.
Hoping my mantra will continue thru and make other aspects of my life more relaxed, at least for me....
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As our daughter is learning to walk I keep thinking about when our son started to walk and what it felt like as new parents. How naive I was. To think I could get him on a schedule and that schedule would be consistant EVERY day and my questions could be answered by other parents or Google (gasp) and I'd feel good and non competitive with other NYC mamas because MY baby slept thru the night from birth! Hahahahaha, right.
In the last 4 years I have learned, with having another child, going from zone-defense as parents to man-on-man, to let it go. They are not robots, no two children are exactly alike in a family and outside a family. Letting this notion go has helped me be a more relaxed wife, parent, daughter, sister and friend (though for verification please ask my husband, mother and brother).
Of course it's not so easy to let it go. I really think the combination of life experiences and maturation and the power of positive thinking that the idea is turning into practice and I am loving the results, at least at this moment.
Someone told me that when you go from 1 to 2+ children the child who has the more critical sense of urgency gets the attention. That advice helped me survive the first four months of our daughters life. Colic crying is not necessarily as urgent as the 3 year old having a tantrum.
Really practicing this mantra of letting it go in ernest this past year it has really helped me manage this big move. Even now, nearly 3 months in, we are leveling out. So the kids made a mess in the apartment (as a professional organizer this did once drive me bananas) but did they have fun? Yes. Did we laugh? Yes. That is the most important part.
Hoping my mantra will continue thru and make other aspects of my life more relaxed, at least for me....
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Wednesday, May 6, 2015
Not the New Kid Anymore
We aren't the new kids anymore. It was bound to happen. I'm excited because it means new people to meet.
I spied them at school drop off. The boy was extra clingy to his father. I thought to myself how familiar I am with that! And how our drop offs aren't like that so much anymore. Most days are easy transitions, some days harder than others but we have adapted, as anticipated and expected. It was only a matter of time.
I smiled at the father and introduced myself, told him how we just moved here 2 months ago, and it will get easier.
As I type this I can't help but relay this to a feeling I had about 7 years ago. My father passed away suddenly and I before the funeral I was walking around thinking "how is the world still moving, people going to work, the movies etc and my world has stopped, come on people!"
In the weeks that followed my mom kept reminding the sadness will change, it will feel different. She reminded me of story from when she was saying Kaddish for her sister. Going to synagogue every evening, changing your life, for 11 months to mourn, learning a new normal. My mom said when a new family started coming to synagogue because someone had just died in their family she able saw for the first time how far her feelings and mind have moved from the initial loss. It gave her perspective how our feelings of grief change and evolve.
I felt similarly with my my experience with my father. The feelings, the intensity, the gapping hole. It's all still here but squeezes a different way into my life, how I incorporate my father in our life, by naming our first child after him, the stories we share, and traits (good and bad) that I have from him.
It is cliche, yes, time helps heal and life goes on. It's certainly something...to getting less hard!
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I spied them at school drop off. The boy was extra clingy to his father. I thought to myself how familiar I am with that! And how our drop offs aren't like that so much anymore. Most days are easy transitions, some days harder than others but we have adapted, as anticipated and expected. It was only a matter of time.
I smiled at the father and introduced myself, told him how we just moved here 2 months ago, and it will get easier.
As I type this I can't help but relay this to a feeling I had about 7 years ago. My father passed away suddenly and I before the funeral I was walking around thinking "how is the world still moving, people going to work, the movies etc and my world has stopped, come on people!"
In the weeks that followed my mom kept reminding the sadness will change, it will feel different. She reminded me of story from when she was saying Kaddish for her sister. Going to synagogue every evening, changing your life, for 11 months to mourn, learning a new normal. My mom said when a new family started coming to synagogue because someone had just died in their family she able saw for the first time how far her feelings and mind have moved from the initial loss. It gave her perspective how our feelings of grief change and evolve.
I felt similarly with my my experience with my father. The feelings, the intensity, the gapping hole. It's all still here but squeezes a different way into my life, how I incorporate my father in our life, by naming our first child after him, the stories we share, and traits (good and bad) that I have from him.
It is cliche, yes, time helps heal and life goes on. It's certainly something...to getting less hard!
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Monday, May 4, 2015
Yogurt or Yognot?
I may or may not have successful made my own yogurt!! I will know tomorrow when I actually try it. but it certainly looks like yogurt.
One can certainly buy dairy products in Shanghai, don't misunderstand me, but there is no kosher cheese or yogurt. We can buy kosher milk from the supermarkets that carry imported goods. I didn't want to depend on trips to Hong Kong to stock up on yogurt (which they were mostly out of while we were in town) for our supply.
Being limited with a few things had certainly helped me adapt recipes, diet, and expand myself in the produce section. I would not say we are missing cheese and yogurt but is more a very nice treat to have the cheese and kind of fun to learn how to make yogurt at home, something I would never have tried.
I tried the old fashion way (thanks to google and recipes.com for trying to help me) with no fancy machine but my experiment did not turn out so great. Maybe the natural elements were against me or biology was clearly never my academic strength, who knows. But today I found this machine, a yogurt machine ($24), much like owning a bread machine (much more expensive) it will eventually sit in my closet for a long time and used from time to time The machine seems to have helped me make yogurt with just 2 quarts of milk and a yogurt squeezie (courtesy of our Hong Kong purchase; yogurt begets yogurt).
Please note: I am learning to speak Chinese but not good enough to read the users manual or understand what the buttons on the machine translate to that is why I am not sure this experiment was completely successful.
One can certainly buy dairy products in Shanghai, don't misunderstand me, but there is no kosher cheese or yogurt. We can buy kosher milk from the supermarkets that carry imported goods. I didn't want to depend on trips to Hong Kong to stock up on yogurt (which they were mostly out of while we were in town) for our supply.
Being limited with a few things had certainly helped me adapt recipes, diet, and expand myself in the produce section. I would not say we are missing cheese and yogurt but is more a very nice treat to have the cheese and kind of fun to learn how to make yogurt at home, something I would never have tried.
I tried the old fashion way (thanks to google and recipes.com for trying to help me) with no fancy machine but my experiment did not turn out so great. Maybe the natural elements were against me or biology was clearly never my academic strength, who knows. But today I found this machine, a yogurt machine ($24), much like owning a bread machine (much more expensive) it will eventually sit in my closet for a long time and used from time to time The machine seems to have helped me make yogurt with just 2 quarts of milk and a yogurt squeezie (courtesy of our Hong Kong purchase; yogurt begets yogurt).
Please note: I am learning to speak Chinese but not good enough to read the users manual or understand what the buttons on the machine translate to that is why I am not sure this experiment was completely successful.
Sunday, May 3, 2015
Lost and Not Found
I lost my phone and it has not been found. It is somewhere inside the JCC building in Hong Kong. So if anyone reading this comes upon my phone feel free to give me a heads up and I'll direct you where to mail it. (it's an Apple iphone 5 with a purple on purple Otterbox case)
In the meantime, I had 4 days of no phone. In the words of Gaspard and Lisa (yes, a British kids show) "Catastrophe!!" I would not say I am addicted (though people who live with me would probably disagree) to my phone but I would say I have a strong dependency to be connected and communicate with my people. Without it I felt very challenged to be in touch. Understanding we survived a LONG time with out smart phones, let alone cell phones it was a challenge even to find out what time it was at some points!
For now the situation is resolved and I am learning the ways of a new phone and praying my data was saved and transfered. We are back in Shanghai and I am back to blogging.
Flying back to Shanghai our flight was delayed nearly 2 hours. Right, 2 hours?? That seems absurd right? Apparently it is VERY uncommon that a flight takes off on time. No seriously, I've heard people comment about flying here being delayed and not thinking much of it. Or even a flight landing on time and people be shocked, literally shocked by that fact. But this was a crazy scene.
I do understand now how, when I mentioned to a friend we were interested in doing a day trip to see the Terra Cotta Warriors next month, a 2 hours flight each way, that it might be a bad idea...
In the meantime, you all know what's happening here, I'd love to hear how spring is shaping up, plans for the summe and LOVING seeing all my teacher friends countdown to the end of the school year!!
In the meantime, I had 4 days of no phone. In the words of Gaspard and Lisa (yes, a British kids show) "Catastrophe!!" I would not say I am addicted (though people who live with me would probably disagree) to my phone but I would say I have a strong dependency to be connected and communicate with my people. Without it I felt very challenged to be in touch. Understanding we survived a LONG time with out smart phones, let alone cell phones it was a challenge even to find out what time it was at some points!
For now the situation is resolved and I am learning the ways of a new phone and praying my data was saved and transfered. We are back in Shanghai and I am back to blogging.
Flying back to Shanghai our flight was delayed nearly 2 hours. Right, 2 hours?? That seems absurd right? Apparently it is VERY uncommon that a flight takes off on time. No seriously, I've heard people comment about flying here being delayed and not thinking much of it. Or even a flight landing on time and people be shocked, literally shocked by that fact. But this was a crazy scene.
Picture it: sitting on a completely full boarded plane (with a four year old and a squirmy 1 year old in your lap), no air flow and NOT one, NOT ONE passenger seemed bothered by this. The entire plane (aside from me and my 1 year old) was sitting calmly not pestering the flight attendants asking what the delay was for or complaining about hot, sweltering how the plane was or how there was no food service on the plane. Frankly, it was an anomaly to me.
I do understand now how, when I mentioned to a friend we were interested in doing a day trip to see the Terra Cotta Warriors next month, a 2 hours flight each way, that it might be a bad idea...
In the meantime, you all know what's happening here, I'd love to hear how spring is shaping up, plans for the summe and LOVING seeing all my teacher friends countdown to the end of the school year!!
Hong Kong Photo Post
A rare selfie shot for the Fischel's at Snoopy World
We finally found swings somewhere and it's AMAZING!!!!
Sunset from our hotel room, every night!
Flower shoe in a mall (not in my size)
A view from The Peak
Another angle from The Peak of the Harbour (Hello Kawloon)
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